The loss of a child is something no one should ever have to experience. But it happens. Miscarriage happen to one in four women. Yet the subject is hush-hushed. People feel ashamed to admit their child died. And in ignoring the pain, you cant grieve properly. You shouldn’t be scared to talk about the loss of your child. Yes it makes some people uncomfortable to talk about. Because a child SHOULDN’T die. But it happens. I speak of my children all the time. I speak to them when the pain of them being gone is just too hard some days. They were still my children, and just because they passed away prematurely doesn’t mean they shouldn’t be talked about. They are a big part of the person I have become and I thank them for it every day.
There are stages of grief. But not everyone grieves the same. I was stuck on anger for a very long time. I was angry at everyone. The doctors, my husband, family, society, and myself. I was angry that MY CHILDREN has to die. They did nothing wrong. Why should they be punished? It took me a long time to finally forgive those I was mad at. I turned the anger into something positive. I want to be able to help those going through the same thing I went through.
I spent a lot of time looking at things to try to heal. Meditation, therapy, exercise, music, and quotes. I was trying to find answers to questions that I probably will never know. One quote that has helped me through tough times is
“Remember how far you’ve come, not just how far you have to go. You are not where you want to be, but neither are you where you used to be. “
And that to me means, I may not be through my grief/healing journey. But I have come a long way from where I once was. Slowly I am making progress. And one day things wont seem so hard.
I hope this quote can help others going through difficult times. The loss of anyone is hard. But especially when it’s a child. They have all their lives ahead of them. And by losing them we lose getting to be apart of their lives.
If anyone ever needs someone to talk to, you can email me directly at angelmommy2304@gmail.com
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Join and become a friend and our group of women will help you through your pain.
J.
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